by Tom Tomaszewski | Apr 5, 2023 | Interiors
All Life doesn’t happen easily. Maybe it seems sensible not to complicate it even further. Lead a simple life, you might think. It’s best. But simplicity does not arrive like a birthday. Often, we cut ourselves off from complications. We might try to keep things...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Mar 30, 2023 | Interiors
I was working with someone yesterday who was frustrated by their progress. Why did they keep repeating the same kinds of mistake? They’d get stuck in some sort of relationship, personal or professional, where the other person seemed anything but friendly or...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Mar 30, 2023 | Interiors
Sleep … It’s such a drag when you wake up after seven or eight hours’ sleep, apparently good sleep, feeling as if nobody’s turned yesterday off. How can you cope with today when you’re still buzzing from the previous 24 hours? It’s as though your past, every...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Feb 13, 2023 | Interiors
Think about what it’s like being looked at by somebody searching for something they want to see. To be regarded so intently without the possibility of difference. It’s so easy not to notice differences, and to find oneself unnoticed, for life to repeat....
by Tom Tomaszewski | Feb 2, 2023 | Interiors
I was speaking the other day with someone about their experience of being asked to reflect. It became apparent that, as is often the case, someone who was being asked to reflect on their life was in fact being asked to reflect back to another person something that...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Dec 21, 2022 | Interiors
I found an interesting book about improvisation in Early Music (Medieval, Renaissance and sometimes Baroque), Early Music being a current diversion of mine. The cover reminded me weirdly of how David Lynch films used to be marketed, or at least one of them: Lost...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Dec 16, 2022 | Interiors
I see people looking for friends, partners, lovers all of the time. Sex is quite easy to find but not so much anything where you might also want to hang around together. Don’t go looking for a partner or a friend as if on a quest. That is for medieval knights,...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Dec 13, 2022 | Interiors
This isn’t a particularly novel thought, but it feels as if it’s become less a part of how we think about ourselves. Saying: ‘I am’ something is very different from doing something. Or ‘we are’, the commercial version, as in:...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Dec 5, 2022 | Interiors
Here in the UK (which is where I am based – but what I am about to write has its equivalencies in other countries) it used to be that most newly qualified psychotherapists tried to find work in the National Health Service (NHS). People looking to have psychotherapy...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Dec 1, 2022 | Interiors
In certain situations it’s almost impossible to hold on to a thought. If it’s a thought that you might do predictable, maybe undesirable things under some forms of pressure, that you might find yourself unable to think clearly in those situations, what do...
