by Tom Tomaszewski | Nov 23, 2022 | Interiors
Psychotherapy is a waste of time it always ends in a history lesson. Self-awareness as a recording of the past. How can that information become a kind of feedback? How can the awareness that I have done something also become part of me not acting like that again?...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Nov 23, 2022 | Interiors
Someone might say: ‘my daughter is acting towards me as if I’m my mother. Am I turning into my mother?’ What I often see is like butterfly wings, reflective symmetry: a child acting like a grand-parent. Our children often act out the act our parents put on. The more...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Nov 17, 2022 | Interiors
Life doesn’t happen easily. Maybe it seems sensible not to complicate it even further. Lead a simple life, you might think. It’s best. But simplicity does not arrive like a birthday. Often, we cut ourselves off from complications. We might try to keep things simple by...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Nov 16, 2022 | Interiors
Something I am used to experiencing as I begin to work with a person is a a shift from something that feels regimented, stiff, or tight; somehow restrictive. There are many ways I could describe what this might suggest is happening. The whole process of getting to...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Oct 27, 2022 | Interiors
Trauma, like a flood, finds its way into any kind of a crack. If something terrible affects a couple, or any group of people, whatever in the past might have been a potential source of conflict will most likely lead to explosive differences. This is why relationships...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Oct 24, 2022 | Interiors
The story they tell you about themself will be the alibi for their leaving. I’ve never thought highly of dating as a way of beginning a long-term relationship. Get to know someone by accident or over a long while and the thing might last. But ‘dates’...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Oct 5, 2022 | Interiors
To begin with be open and intolerant.
by Tom Tomaszewski | Sep 26, 2022 | Interiors
I went to see Moonage Daydream yesterday. I won’t try and describe what happened then. As usual, whenever something involving Bowie happens I find myself getting into every corner of myself, so much so that it’s clearer than ever how weird, cowed and...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Aug 1, 2022 | Interiors
Reading Donnel Stern’s Unformulated Experience (2003) over the weekend I found myself bumping up against a familiar thought. There are few people able to write about those thinkers usually categorised as ‘post-structuralist’, and very few of them are...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Jul 12, 2022 | Interiors
I listen to David Lynch’s weather report most nights. I remember watching his films when I was young and feeling sometimes so disturbed that I couldn’t sleep. These days his reports help me sleep. Whatever happened?
