by Tom Tomaszewski | Dec 16, 2022 | Interiors
I see people looking for friends, partners, lovers all of the time. Sex is quite easy to find but not so much anything where you might also want to hang around together. Don’t go looking for a partner or a friend as if on a quest. That is for medieval knights,...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Dec 13, 2022 | Interiors
This isn’t a particularly novel thought, but it feels as if it’s become less a part of how we think about ourselves. Saying: ‘I am’ something is very different from doing something. Or ‘we are’, the commercial version, as in:...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Dec 5, 2022 | Interiors
Here in the UK (which is where I am based – but what I am about to write has its equivalencies in other countries) it used to be that most newly qualified psychotherapists tried to find work in the National Health Service (NHS). People looking to have psychotherapy...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Dec 1, 2022 | Interiors
In certain situations it’s almost impossible to hold on to a thought. If it’s a thought that you might do predictable, maybe undesirable things under some forms of pressure, that you might find yourself unable to think clearly in those situations, what do...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Nov 23, 2022 | Interiors
Psychotherapy is a waste of time it always ends in a history lesson. Self-awareness as a recording of the past. How can that information become a kind of feedback? How can the awareness that I have done something also become part of me not acting like that again?...
by Tom Tomaszewski | Nov 23, 2022 | Interiors
Someone might say: ‘my daughter is acting towards me as if I’m my mother. Am I turning into my mother?’ What I often see is like butterfly wings, reflective symmetry: a child acting like a grand-parent. Our children often act out the act our parents put on. The more...
